Home

Small Groups

Elvis used to sing, "Are you lonesome tonight?" and every teenage heartthrob would respond, "Well, Elvis, if you're asking, then, why yes, I happen to be very lonely." Bobby Vinton sang, "I'm Mr. Lonely, yes, Mr. Lonely, I have nobody to call my own." Ricky Nelson had a big hit with his song "Lonesome Town." It sounds like there must have been a lot of lonely people in the world back then. I'm no Mr. "Ain't Nothin' but a Hound dog", but let me ask you this, "Are you lonesome tonight?" While I'm asking, "How are you getting along with people?"

Below is the famous Four Tier Get-Along Scale which will help you rate the quality of your relationships:

1 - Great (Hitting on all 8)
2 - Fair (Need a tune-up)
3 - Deteriorating (Need a major overhaul)
4 - Would Not Stand the Light of Day (Call the wrecker service, she's totaled)

How would you rate your relationships based on this simple scale?

Along with the Four Tier Get-Along Scale we are also providing the proven "Give & Take Formula" for lasting success in all your relationships. The Give & Take Formula, when correctly applied, will reveal why each relationship scored a one, two, three or four on the Get-Along Scale. Below is an explanation:

1 - Great - A high give and take factor between both people, usually both feel the other is giving more than taking
2 - Fair - A decent amount of give and take, however one or both persons suspects the other is doing more taking than giving.
3 - Deteriorating - The give and take is dangerously low,with one or both personsy accusing the other of taking more than giving.
4 - Would Not Stand the Light of Day - Give and take is a distant memory. Too much taking has doomed the relationship.

Do you want successful relationships? Have a balanced give and take, and work on your give. Do you need an example to follow? Look no farther than Jesus Christ - He gave all and took nothing. Do you need a good place to work on your Give & Take? Try an Inside Out Small Group at NorthShore!